These days I have been reading the book of Jorhe Bucay called: "De la autoestima al egoísmo" (From Self-Esteem to Egotism). Jorhe Bucay was born in Buenos Aires in 1949 and he has been a doctor who was very interested in mental health. This made his one of the most successful psychotherapists of Gestalt for quite a few years. Today he might be at the beach enjoying his cocktail, as he chose to live at a coastal village in Spain, organizing trips all around the world to meet his readers and his family too.
I am reading his book and I stop for a while at a small paragraph where he explains the wisdom and the knowledge we can get our of exploring the history of a language. His word to be explored is MAHALO, and in Hawaiian it means THANK YOU. There is nothing wise there yet, but when people would reply to say something like you're welcome, then --according to the ancient dialect of Hawaiian- people would still say mahalo...and this would imply "thank you for letting me help you". The wisdom behind it, is what Positive Psychology tries to highlight through loads of research and experiments; that when we help someone we both gain something! We share the pleasure of getting help and offering help. BUT be aware that the only help that you offer and won't leave you with a feeling of; "you owe me" or "I did it for you!", is the help that has been provided full-hearted-ly, out of generosity and genuineness. Psychology or modern philosophies of Buddhism would call it Kindness.
So what could be the motivation for starting doing something like that?
I am going to quote Frederick Buechner who said: " The life I touch for good will touch another life and that in turn another until who knows where the trembling stops or in what far place my touch will be felt!" And this holds so much truth in it! You may think of the butterfly effect reading about it and I would agree that it talks about the same action and reaction phenomenon. But isn't that great?
And if people come and say to you: But what you are doing is just a drop in the ocean!" think of what Mother Teresa replied:
“We know only too well that what we are doing is nothing more than a drop in the ocean. But if the drop were not there, the ocean would be missing something.”