When it comes to trust something new or a stranger or a situation or even just life, we always try to look for evidence from our past to build up our arguments and then "logically" to come up with a decision.
The problem in doing that is that we disconnect from the present, from our present experience as a different one and from our present self as different too. We just try to "protect" ourselves from any harm. As if there is no learning in a harmful experience, and as if we can truly foretell the consequences of our decisions in any given moment.
So when we do get hurt, then we say that's it, I had enough, and we make the choice almost automatically to get locked up. We decide not to trust anyone in case they reach our wound inside and hurt us again and we never seem to think: Oh What a price to pay in order to stay in our comfort zone all the time or even take time to acknowledge that the wound is ours, the situation is only the trigger.
How many chances has a person who does not trust - out of an expired decision- to experience true connection and true sharing and love? Since all these are relying on us allowing ourselves to be vulnerable?
Trusting life is scary, but most of the fears that makes it scary is past experiences or imaginary worst cases scenarios. But not trusting life has a definite and accurately predictable outcome. You do not allow life run through you, you have locked doors and you are checking all the time though your little biased hole if you could possibly open that door or not.
And as I am writing this I am getting the picture of either a house with open windows, which is allowing the cool breeze to come in, though sometimes the wind may be tough or the rain may come in or a house which has all the windows shut down, it smells lifelessness, it is not getting any chance for fresh air and nothing is shifting inside.
And if this house is your mind, where your life decisions reside and are produced, from which place would you like them to come from?
So I guess I would like to urge you today to open your locked up doors and your windows and start creating a breeze of changeability and of presence in the moment. Do not let your past run the show in your present, because the price you pay does not worth it.
Let people in....let life in....let approval in and let rejection in...let love and let hurt...let the strength and the vulnerability...let the weakness and the resilience...for in life there is nothing positive without negative and no negative without positive...everything is a fine balance between the extremes.
Enjoy your week,
Speak to you soon,