I have just finished a phone call which left me feeling hopeless and lost and with a fight between the wanting of the adult and the wishing of the child in me. I am thinking with no reason or effectiveness. It is a vicious circle as always.
Then I start looking around me and I see her again. She is still reading peacefully her book. She is smiling now, though, and she is enjoying her book's company so much. She is emerged into that. Reading and then small breaks of insightful smile and reflection.
Can you savour another person's experience? Can you be feeling vicariously happy? Are we entitled to steal some of the light that someone -without even knowing- is emitting?
I guess that we are not just entitled but we are meant to...
-I know what you think...This is no avoidance though! It is inspiration, it is a conscious decision not to be pulled over by one's past and false feelings. A decision not to feed the wishing and the needs of a traumatized inner child, because the reality is not tha same anymore.
So I guess it happened quite organically to me what Positive Psychology calls Vicarious Savouring, but by having this acknowledged I am so curious to see how many moments like that I will cause to happen! At least I will try!
Or maybe I even caused this one...by having read the day before the following quote from Jenniger Gayle: " Some days you will be the light for the others and some days you will need some light from them. As long as there is Light there is hope and there is a way..."
With warm wishes for this post to resonate somewhere inside you.